Imagine a list of small changes you can make to your life to help lift your mood and make you feel happier.Well imagine no more! because this list has is now a reality having been requested by more than one of my clients at The Heath Practice Hypnotherapy Cardiff.
(Whilst reading this list bear in mind that the answer to true happiness comes from within, but making the rest of your life easier and happier in the meantime by following all or some of the suggestions on the list, will pave the way to you finding true, long lasting happiness.)
2. Stop worrying about what other people say or think about you.When you realise how little other people actually care or notice what you look like or what you say, you can begin to be your true self. Be free to understand that even if people do have negative thoughts about you, or notice the spot on your chin, those thoughts will actually cause them more psychological harm than you.
3. Have fun and laugh.Try to find ways in your daily life to laugh and joke as much as possible. Surround yourself with positive people, watch amusing clips on YouTube like this one. Learn a new joke every week....... and share it. This will lower your Cortisol levels and increase your production Serotonin, the happy chemical!
4. Interact positively within your community..and don't shy away from making small talk with strangers. You never know who you might meet, a soul mate, a best friend or an amazing hypnotherapist!, at the very least you will provide yourself with a shot of Serotonin and the other lovely neurotransmitters released during positive interaction. (Stranger Danger rules apply obv.)
5. Write a diary or discuss positive things you've noticed during the day or week.Ask yourself "what's been good today?" or "what's been my favourite part of the day?". Do this alone or even better do it with your kids (if you have any) at bed time. Its great for them to reflect on positives before sleep and makes the task more fun and easier for you when shared.
6. Listen to music.It's no secret that music has the power to reduce stress and improve your mood. Even listening to a sad song is beneficial as it allows us to drift into our imaginations and to get in touch with our emotions. Listening to whatever music suits your mood at the time is proven to reduce cortisol levels and increase happiness (as if we needed an excuse to blast out a power ballad)
7. Hold your head up and smile.Seriously. Don’t be the crazy person on the train about it, but a gentle smile is disarming, pretty, and it makes you feel better. Smiling is also contagious, so smile and literally you will see the world smile back.
8. Get a good nights sleep.This is crucial as 'REM' sleep helps us sort through and categorise the ton of negative crap we expose ourselves to daily. This ensures we have the capacity to expose ourselves to more of the same the following day.
My top tips for better sleep are:a) Think positive thoughts before bed (see point 5).
b) Avoid electronic devises 1 hour before sleep. The light emitted from devises such as phones, tablets and IPads confuses your primitive brain and tricks it into thinking you should be awake. You create 55% less Melatonin (which is vital for healthy sleep) when you use these devises before bed. FACT.
c) Breathe and count. Taking nice slow deep breaths sends confirmation to our primitive minds that we are at rest with no life threatening situations to deal with. Following a simple breathing technique helps you achieve this. My favourite is the 4,7,8. Exhale completely to start then breathe in for the count of 4, hold for 7 and breathe out through the mouth for the count of 8. Repeat this for a minute or so and you will soon be nodding off.